The exchange of love tokens is part of various rituals between two people. Small gifts help to cement the bond of friendship and all kinds of love.
Encouraged in home and at school, the practice of giving and receiving is a necessary social skill. When Valentine’s Day arrives children bring decorated shoe boxes and small stacks of friendship tokens to share with classmates. A feast of cookies and juice celebrates friendly love. A sweet treat for each participant reinforces the idea of reciprocity and the importance of love tokens.
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Although it is unknown when the first would-be friend gave a token of affection, we see evidence of the practice throughout history and even in the animal kingdom.
Love token exchanges take place in nature, especially in the kingdom of birds. Penguins, for example, give pebbles to one another as a sign of affection, sometimes stealing pebbles from other couple’s nests. Crows bear gifts, and songbirds adorn their nests with bits of colorful string, even when natural materials are available. Birds, like humans, seem to appreciate beauty for beauty’s sake. Indeed, the sharing of objects is evidence of a deeper bond between any two creatures. Love tokens are a cross-species phenomenon. A family in England befriended a murder of crows and now the birds bring them gifts.
Ancient Neanderthal graves contain “carved stone ornaments” that mark the place where loved ones remain. Whether these ornaments are a kind of love token or serve another purpose is unknown, however, the indications we see in the animal kingdom and the social aspects of modern human life suggest the possibility of Neanderthal love tokens.
Over the course of human history, each society has a record of acceptable love tokens. In ancient China hair pins, lover’s knots, and halves of things were all considered love tokens. Useful items top this culture’s list of preferred love tokens. In days of old the halves of items identified family members lost to war. Love knots remain as a love token, sometimes worn as a bracelet, tied on a belt, or bag as a reminder of the loved one.
In an ancient Greek poem from the third century BCE called “The Goatherd and the Shepherd” a bucolic poem by Theocritus V, two men have a verbal battle about many things, including love. One of the couplets, by the younger of two competitors follows:
When fair Eumedes took the pipe that was his lover’s token
He kissed him sweet as sweet could be; his lover’s love’s unbroken.
The young man references a pipe as a love token. He is probably talking about a musical pipe and not a smoking implement, although the Greeks enjoyed double entendre, especially in love poetry, which provides other meanings as well.
In 1896 John Donne, an English poet who reveled in religion, puns and double entendre, writes of love tokens again. His poem, “The Token” is characteristic of his works in that he leads the reader to the edge of one idea only to turn to a different idea altogether. Many of his poems feature this kind of twist. In “The Token” the speaker begs for a love token as proof of continued affection, however, the speaker says he does not want a ribbon, ring, bracelet or miniature painting. Instead, he demands:
Send me nor this nor that, to increase my score
But swear thou think’st I love thee, and no more.
Nonetheless, Donne provides a short list of popular love tokens at the turn of the 19th century. Miniatures were quite popular. Queen Victoria had numerous miniature paintings of her husband Prince Albert, that she wore as jewelry. After his death she incorporated the idea of these love tokens into a mourning jewelry that featured tiny photographs of Prince Albert under glass.
Love tokens have a long history and a variety of applications. They can be a statement and celebration of any kind of love. Whether you are looking for a token of friendship, familial love, or romantic love, we can help you find just the token you are looking for.
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